Sonder: Lives We Never See

Sonder is a term that describes the feeling of realizing that every individual you pass in life has an existence as rich and detailed as your own, even though we usually don't notice it.

Prostitution often dehumanizes those involved, reducing them to mere objects of desire.

This idea reminds us of something crucial: the person you are hiring for a sexual service has a story, a family, perhaps children who depend on them, and a sick parent.

Many have lived in extreme poverty, which forced them to leave their country in search of something better.

By recognizing the humanity in every individual, we can begin to challenge the prejudices and stigmas surrounding this profession.

I can speak from my own experience: every day in this life is a challenge.

I wake up, look in the mirror, and ask myself: what kind of humiliation will I have to endure today?

Fortunately, I can choose my clients and filter the messages I receive via WhatsApp.

If a message is vulgar, disrespectful, or contains demands that put my health at risk, I ignore it without a second thought.

Often, people see me only as an object, but there is so much more to me.

My laughter, my tears, my dreams, and my fears are as real and as deep as anyone else's.

The Sonder effect hits me hard at times; I know those passing by have their own struggles and traumas, yet I often feel that my own humanity goes unnoticed.

Every story I hear from my colleagues is so harrowing that it sometimes seems unbelievable.

But it reminds me of a fundamental truth: despite everything, we all long to be seen, heard, and understood.

All of us in this work carry a past that is often too dark, and yet we continue—surviving, resisting, and being human.